Author(s): Amy MorinDownload
Publish: Published December 23rd 2014 by William Morrow
ISBN: Edition Language English
Expanding on her viral post that has become an international phenomenon, a psychotherapist offers simple yet effective solutions for increasing mental strength and finding happiness and success in life.
As a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor, and psychotherapist, Amy Morin has seen countless people choose to succeed despite facing enormous challenges. That resilience inspired her to write 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, a web post that instantly went viral, and was picked up by the Forbes website.
Morin’s post focused on the concept of mental strength, how mentally strong people avoid negative behaviors–feeling sorry for themselves, resenting other people’s success, and dwelling on the past. Instead, they focus on the positive to help them overcome challenges and become their best.
In this inspirational, affirmative book, Morin expands upon her original message, providing practical strategies to help readers avoid the thirteen common habits that can hold them back from success. Combining compelling anecdotal stories with the latest psychological research, she offers strategies for avoiding destructive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors common to everyone.
Like physical strength, mental strength requires healthy habits, exercise, and hard work. Morin teaches you how to embrace a happier outlook and arms you to emotionally deal with life’s inevitable hardships, setbacks, and heartbreaks–sharing for the first time her own poignant story of tragedy, and how she summoned the mental strength to move on. As she makes clear, mental strength isn’t about acting tough; it’s about feeling empowered to overcome life’s challenges.
Some Reviews: 4,897 ratings 534 reviews in Goodreads.com
When I started this book, i.e., I got through chapter 1, I thought, oh no, why did I pick up a book with one of those “# things people with something always/never do”. I have read a couple of those in the past, never making it past a few pages before quitting. Somehow in the second chapter it started to seem a little different. I really enjoyed how for each topic it had a section that asks “Do you ever find yourself doing/thinking blahblahblah?”, and then goes on to tell you why this is polluting your thinking and what you should try to do instead. I find that for each topic I was totally guilty of doing those things I shouldn’t, some more than others, and the advice in here has helped me to steer my thinking in a healthier direction. Definitely recommend it.
Everything about this book is spot on. I listened to the Audible version, but plan on picking up a hard copy to reference and read again. At first, I was embarrassed that I fit into so many of the categories (like expecting immediate results or that the world owes me something), but then I let the shame go and heard the message. I’m pretty sure I fall into all 13 of the categories, just like I’m sure most people I know fall into these categories as well, but it doesn’t feel like all is lost. I love that Morin gives practical, easy advice on how not fall into these mind traps. I also loved the stories backing up the 13 things, either clients of her own or well-known entrepreneurs, like Hershey and Macy. It all felt doable.
After being in a difficult work environment, this book really helped me realize the strengths and weaknesses of my mind set. It also made me realize that not everything is my fault, as sometimes your colleagues/bosses/supervisors would have you think. Nonetheless, you have to develop the mental strength to know the real you, what you stand for, and how you can persevere through difficult situations. In addition, I am preparing for an upcoming move and new job, and I will definitely be taking the lessons I learned in this book with me. It is a great and easy read. For those who are always looking to improve yourself or be the best you can be, this book is for you.
Many of us are way to afraid to change. But, we also want life to be different than the one we are currently experiencing. This book will help you examine the things you do that really are unhealthy for you and your relationships.It will challenge the way you think about things and encourage you to do things differently at times. It could also help you see where what you are doing, even when unpopular with others, is a healthy way of living.
As you read each chapter you will have to ask yourself, What do I do in this situation? A truthful answer will either encourage you or challenge you to change. You will decide how to respond.
“Time doesn’t heal anything. It’s how we deal with time that determines the speed at which we heal.””Don’t give away your power.””Set healthy emotional and physical boundaries.”
“Focus on what you can control.”
“Influence people without trying to control them.”
“Your view of other people isn’t accurate. You never actually know what goes on behind closed doors.”
“Create your own definition of success.”
“Avoid comparing yourself to others.”
“Stop trying to determine what’s fair.”
“Deliberate practice is more important than natural talent.”
“We underestimate how long change takes.”
“Delaying gratification makes us stronger.”